About Me

Welcome to If It Brings You Joy!  I am a Joy Coach dedicated to helping women  prepare for a new chapter in their lives that’s filled with more joy, meaning, and fun than ever before.

Life Coach Ellen Burgan

Hi! My name is Ellen Burgan. I love to have fun, yet I have a big appreciation for the art of relaxation. I prefer to live spontaneously, and as I say, go where the wind blows me.

I live a simple life in Northern Wisconsin surrounded by nature at its best.

During the  summer I love to be on the lake, and I think the winter snow is beautiful – for about the first month. (The other 4-5 months, not so much.)

Can You Relate?

Making the best of our empty nest!

The chaos of kids and career have passed and now it’s time to make the best of our empty nest!

It seems like yesterday that I was dancing in the living room with my babies, then driving them to endless sports & activities, and finally the big step of dropping them off at college.

But wait, there’s more! The joy didn’t stop there. It goes on to college graduations, watching our daughter get married, saying goodbye to our son as he paves a non-traditional path of his own… the list goes on and through the chaos it all continues to bring me joy!

Sometimes the hectic life of raising children and/or establishing a career can leave our self-priority at the bottom of the list, and we forget to do the things that float our boat. So much so that we feel “stuck” and just know there has to be something more out there for us. I’ve been there!

Yes, I was blessed with a wonderful family and loved every minute of volunteering in classrooms, weekends at our cottage, driving them around like a taxi driver, and all the other things that come with raising children – all in addition to my career.

There were times when I was TIRED! If I only had known then what I know now! I could have taken more personal responsibility for getting my needs met so that I could be the best version of me – for myself, my husband, my children, and everyone else I love. That’s one reason why I want to support women in their journey to being their best self filled with inner joy.

My journey of personal growth has gotten me to a place where I can now take the much needed guiltless time for me. I’m still on the journey (will never stop this awesome journey), and I’m getting better and better at becoming my true authentic self. As I work on myself, I believe I show up as a better person for my family, friends, and clients.

I’m now a Certified Fearless Living Coach (CFLC) through the ivy league Fearless Living Institute.

As a Joy Coach, I help  women live a with joy. Through our work together, I help them rewire themselves for confidence and courage, identify excuses and self-sabotage to keep it from being a repeating pattern, and take inspired action toward their goals and the life they truly desire.

If It Brings You Joy, The Blog

JOY: /joi/ . Gladness not based on circumstance
A sense of well-being regardless of external situations

If It Brings You Joy is a blog that will encourage you to explore new things, reconnect with the things you miss, and become the best version of you.

You’ll get ideas on how to:

  • Rekindle your self-priority
  • Clarify passions to live a purposeful life
  • Discover new joys
  • Slow down and enjoy the journey  (so grateful I’ve learned to enjoy the journey instead of wishing I was at my destination!)
  • Make life a little better for yourself and others

May my words be just what you needed to hear today, and may my words even inspire a positive change in your life. And if you would like my support as a coach to take you through your personal growth journey, please feel free to ask me any question or schedule a free, no-obligation 30-minute discovery call with me.


I am a wife of over 30 years, and Ray and I have been empty nesters for about a decade.

Our wedding, and then us at our daughter's wedding.
Ray and I at our wedding in 1989, and us more recently at our daughter’s wedding.

I have two children: Jamie, a speech language pathologist and she is married to Jim who is also a speech language pathologist; and Chris, who after college and 3 years of a career in communications gave it up to work/travel in various countries. I’m lucky enough to also be the step-mother to Nick, a computer engineer. Nick and I share interests that the rest of our family would probably say are “woo woo.”

My family

At the beginning of 2018, my dad passed away at the age of 87 after having dementia for several years. I was lucky enough to have my parents move to my town about three years before his death, as I was then able to help him and my mom quite a bit.

My mom still lives in the same town as me, and we spend a lot of time together. She’s also the chief proof reader for my posts.

My two dogs rock my world, as I am a full-fledged dog fanatic. Actually, I adore most animals. I fondly refer to the many deer in our area as our neighborhood pets.


I have 30+ years of business experience, and I’m over-the-moon happy to say I ended that chapter of life at the end of 2019.

For many years I was a Business Analyst/Project Manager where I worked with people to understand their business problems, and recommend or develop new software solutions.

After graduating from the Fearless Living Institute as a Certified Fearless Living Coach, I’m now a Joy Coach and loving every minute of helping women get the confidence and courage they need to become their authentic self and live with my joy,  meaning, and fun than every before.

So Glad You’re Here!

Feel free to contact me, and read the following posts about me and my family to get to know me a little better: