About Me

Welcome to If It Brings You Joy!  I am a Joy Coach dedicated to helping women  prepare for a new chapter in their lives that’s filled with more joy, meaning, and fun than ever before.

In addition, I write action-based blog posts to make life a little better for yourself and others.  I have a passion for bringing joy to my life, and I share my ideas with you.

Life Coach Ellen Burgan

Hi! My name is Ellen Burgan. I love to have fun, yet I have a big appreciation for the art of relaxation. I prefer to live spontaneously, and as I say, go where the wind blows me.

I live a simple life in Northern Wisconsin surrounded by nature at its best.

During the  summer I love to be on the lake, and I think the winter snow is beautiful – for about the first month. (The other 4-5 months, not so much.)

I’m a Joy Coach (Life Coaching focused on increasing joy)

JOY: /joi/ . Gladness not based on circumstance
A sense of well-being regardless of external situations

Making the best of our empty nest!

The chaos of kids and career have passed and now it’s time to make the best of our empty nest!

It seems like yesterday that I was dancing in the living room with my babies, then driving them to endless sports & activities, and finally the big step of dropping them off at college.

But wait, there’s more! The joy didn’t stop there. It goes on to college graduations, watching my daughter get married, saying goodbye to my son as he paves a non-traditional path of his own… the list goes on and through the chaos it all continues to bring me joy!

Sometimes the hectic life of raising children and/or establishing a career can leave our self-priority at the bottom of the list, and we forget to do the things that float our boat. So much so that we feel “stuck” and just know there has to be something more out there for us.

I’ve been there! Yes, I was blessed with a wonderful family and loved every minute of volunteering in classrooms, weekends at our cottage, driving them around like a taxi driver, implementing (inflicting??!?) chore charts, and all the other things that come with raising children – all in addition to my career.

There were times when I was TIRED! If I only had known then what I know now! I could have taken more personal responsibility for getting my needs met so that I could be the best version of me – for myself, my husband, my children, and everyone else I love. That’s one reason why I want to support women in their journey to being their best self filled with inner joy.

My journey of personal growth has gotten me to a place where I can now take the much needed guiltless time for me. I’m still on the journey (will never stop this awesome journey), and I’m getting better and better at becoming my true authentic self. As I work on myself, I believe I show up as a better person for my family and friends.

I’m now a Certified Fearless Living Coach (CFLC) through Rhonda Britten’s Fearless Living Institute.  (You may know Rhonda from her tv series Starting Over, her many books, being on Oprah, and the list goes on.) It was a great choice because working with my clients brings me great joy! (Thus, I call myself a Joy Coach.)

As a CFLC I will show you how fear works, where it comes from, how to uncover hidden fears, and how to use it to tap into your true inner self – your inner joy.

If It Brings You Joy, The Blog

If It Brings You Joy is a blog that will encourage you to explore new things, reconnect with the things you miss, and become the best version of you.

You’ll get ideas on how to:

  • Rekindle your self-priority
  • Clarify passions to live a purposeful life
  • Discover new joys
  • Slow down and enjoy the journey  (so grateful I’ve learned to enjoy the journey instead of wishing I was at my destination!)
  • Make life a little better for yourself and others

I provide inspirational ideas and how-to resources to encourage women to be prepared to launch a meaningful new chapter of life. Let’s roll into our 40’s, 50’s, 60’s and beyond living a life with a finely tuned mix of fun and relaxation – and lots of meaning and joy!

Do you have a passion for personal growth and bringing joy to your life? Me too, and I want to share my ideas with you. Of course what I find joyful may not always be joyful for you, and that’s okay. We can learn from each other.

Trying and experiencing new things first-hand is the way I learn best. I’m a podcast fanatic (read about my favorite podcasts), and as often as possible I gain new knowledge by reading, attending various conferences and workshops, participate in small group discussions, and any other form of education I can take part in.

Going through the rigorous Fearless Living program and becoming a Certified Fearless Living Coach was life-changing. It has brought passion to my life as I help my coaching clients build confidence, courage, and self-love, as well as building their inner joy!

My intent for If It Brings You Joy is to share what I learn.

May my words be just what you needed to hear today, and may my words even inspire a positive change in your life. And if you would like my support as a coach to take you through your personal growth journey, please feel free to ask me any question or schedule a free, no-obligation 30-minute discovery call with me.


I am a wife of over 30 years, and Ray and I have been empty nesters for about a decade.

Our wedding, and then us at our daughter's wedding.
Ray and I at our wedding in 1989, and us more recently at our daughter’s wedding.

I have two children: Jamie, a speech language pathologist and she is married to Jim who is also a speech language pathologist; and Chris, who after college and 3 years of a career in communications gave it up to work/travel in various countries. I’m lucky enough to also be the step-mother to Nick, a computer engineer. Nick and I share interests that the rest of our family would probably say are “woo woo.”

My family

At the beginning of 2018, my dad passed away at the age of 87 after having dementia for several years. I was lucky enough to have my parents move to my town about three years before his death, as I was then able to help him and my mom quite a bit.

My mom still lives in the same town as me, and we spend a lot of time together. She’s also the chief proof reader for all my posts.

My two dogs rock my world, as I am a full-fledged dog fanatic. Actually, I adore most animals. I fondly refer to the many deer in our area as our neighborhood pets.


I have 30 years of business experience, and I’m over-the-moon happy to say I ended that chapter of life at the end of 2019.

For many years I was a Business Analyst/Project Manager where I worked with people to understand their business problems, and recommend or develop new software solutions.

After graduating from the Fearless Living Institute as a Certified Fearless Living Coach, I’m now a Joy Coach and loving every minute of helping women get the confidence and courage they need to become their authentic self and live with my joy,  meaning, and fun than every before.

Join the If It Brings You Joy Community

Join me in building a community of people who are open to new ideas to make life a little better for ourselves and others. Together we will remind each other to appreciate all the big AND little joys on our journey.

Feel free to contact me, and read the following posts about me and my family to get to know me a little better:

And here are some of my favorite resources that I recommend.