Feeling a spark of joy is a sign that you’re connected with your higher inner self… who you really are on the inside.
Feeling calm… at peace… in the present moment… in your heart rather than caught up in the drama found in your mind…
… that’s when joy (that’s already in you) can naturally come through.
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My inspiration for this post is Eckhart Tolle’s book, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose. Whew! It goes deep into connecting with your higher inner self!
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I didn’t find it to be an easy read, but it’s the type of book that I know I’ll want to refer back to time after time. I think Oprah summed up the book really well:
“[Oprah] Winfrey calls the book ‘a wake-up call for the entire planet, one reader at a time. It helps us to distance ourselves from our egos . . . and to open ourselves to a higher self. . . . It helps us to stop creating our own suffering and obsessing over the past and what the future might be, and to put ourselves in the now.'” —USA Today
One thing that jumped out at me was:
Pleasure is always derived from something outside of you, whereas joy arises from within.Eckhart Tolle, Author of A New Earth
Nobody can give you joy, and nobody can steal your joy. People can help you feel happy, but joy… only you have the power to make “joy arise from within.”
Another quote by Eckhart Tolle gets to one of his main points, and that is to live in the present moment. And when in the present moment, there should be joy! If you’re like me, you may need to read this quote a few times to really absorb it.
Ask yourself: Is there joy, ease and lightness in what I am doing? If there isn’t, then time is covering up the present moment, and life is perceived as a burden or a struggle.Eckhart Tolle
Thus, my following suggestions are inspired from his book, but not taken directly from his book. You can read articles by Eckhart Tolle here.
5 Easy Ways to Make Space For Joy In Your Life
1 – Release what no longer serves you.
Joy needs space to flow and grow. Letting go of things that make you unhappy and unfulfilled creates space for things that make you happy and fulfilled.
- Let go of listening to people who fan your fear.
- Let go of blame – take responsibility for your life.
- Let go of not doing things because you might fail – failure is ok.
- Let go of self-doubt – that’s fear talking. Instead, listen to your inner self.
2 – Do the little things that uplift you.
I’m talking about the teeny-tiny stuff that might make you smile or feel satisfied. The more micro-moments you find each day, the better.
- The first sip of coffee to start your day.
- Listening to the laughter and yelling of children playing.
- Watching squirrels chase each other up and down trees.
- Giving your dog a good old fashioned belly rub!
- Sitting outside alone listening to the wind, birds, and whatever else surprises you.
3 – Be grateful.
Expressing gratitude is one of the easiest ways to increase the joy-factor (blessings) in all areas of your life. What feels good in your life today? What do you feel appreciation for today?
Gratitude will help you adjust the lens through which you see the world.
- Life through a lens of fear is scary. Fear has shown up for me with thoughts like “I might fail” or “What will people will think about me” or “I’m not good enough.”
- Life through a lens of joy, hope or confidence feels a whole lot better and shows up for me like “I am getting better” or “I’m learning with each step I take” or at minimum “I am not there YET.”
Bottom line… The more blessings (joy) you find through gratitude, the more blessings (joy) will come to you. (Energy Flows Where Attention Goes.)
If you decide to do one thing to improve your life, I recommend starting a gratitude practice.
Start your gratitude practice TODAY! Download my free Daily Positivity Journal page to write your gratitudes. It can start a life-changing habit!
4 – Live in the present moment.
Let go of the past and don’t worry about the future. Easily accessible little joys are often missed when we’re not focused on the present moment.
You can’t control the future, and you can’t change the past. Ouch! This is one that I’ve made great progress on, and I continue to improve.
5 – Take a deep breath. Take another one. And another.
Deep breathing and focusing on your breath is an all-natural way to calm your mind of issues like stress and anxiety.
Be aware of your breathing. Notice how this takes attention away from your thinking and creates space.Eckhart Tolle
Talking about all-natural, after you’re done with at least three deep breaths, smile! Even if it’s fake, smiling also an easy (and amazing) way to feel better.
Take charge of the amount of joy in your life.
Joy is an inside job. Only YOU can give yourself permission to feel and grow it for yourself.
Let your inner self be your guide.
As you make space for joy to flow into your life, others around you will also be positively affected… sounds cliché but joy is contagious!
Alone time and being still is a great way to connect with your inner self, and it’s your inner self that knows your true joy.
A solid foundation of joy will help you be your best self and it will help you get through hard times.
What little things are you choosing to do today to bring joy into your day?
If lack of self-confidence is stealing your joy, I can help you with that. Let’s talk.