Finding Little Joys in Life – Even When You Don’t Feel Happy

  • The first sip of coffee in the morning.
  • Staring until mesmerized by the flames of a campfire.
  • Swinging on a swing like a kid. Higher! Higher!
  • Walking barefoot on a warm summer day.

What do these things have in common? They’re all easily accessible little joys that are often missed when we’re not focused on the present moment. Worry, overwhelm, and so many other negative emotions can fester and steal our joy.

Earlier this week we put down one of our beloved dogs, Herk. My heart aches.

Our beautiful Herk who we miss so much.

You may wonder why I am sharing this with you as it certainly is NOT a joy.

Well, for two days I’ve sat mindlessly watching reruns of Friends and Big Bang Theory. It got me through the day, of course with waves of tears.

As I woke up this morning, my thoughts immediately went to missing Herk. Then, I thought about my training as a life coach and how I might coach someone in my situation.

I decided to set an intention for the day, and my intention is “I am willing to practice finding little joys in the present moment.”

My intention was inspired by Herk, because dogs are infamous for getting joy from the simple things in the present moment.

Want to join me? Look for and appreciate micro-moments of joy and happiness in your day.

I’m talking about the teeny-tiny stuff that might make you smile or feel satisfied. The more micro-moments you find each day, the better.

For me, it doesn’t mean I will miraculously move beyond grief. Tears will likely still come and go. But I am willing to try taking small steps to get myself closer to joy even while I grieve. I planted the seed and will keep it at the top of my mind throughout the day.

A Little Bit About Intentions

An intention is a proactive statement that empowers, supports and inspires you to take action. Intentions are practical and doable, yet are all about the process, not the results.

Intentions are self-focused, meaning they empower you to take full responsibility for your life. An intention is all about YOU – everything is in your control. There’s no room to blame others because the intention is focused on you, nobody else.

Intentions practiced properly is sure to get you progress on your life desires.

Check out my previous post to learn how to create a powerful intention.

Underrated, Simple Pleasures

Woman walking with her dog

So, while sitting in my feelings of grief, I’m also finding little joys to savor. Today, I:

  • Smelled my coffee and took that glorious first sip.
  • Gave my dog Izzy some “lovies.”
  • Writing is healing for me, so here I am writing this post.
  • Took a break for a walk in nature with Izzy.
  • Later we will take a boat ride and enjoy the sunny day and relaxing lake.

I’ll follow my intention knowing that savoring the sweet little joys of the present moment will help me slowly heal. Little joys that will infiltrate my day with the promise of better days ahead.

Appreciate the little joys that exist in every day.

Rainbow Bridge poem
Person walking with balloons

12 Replies to “Finding Little Joys in Life – Even When You Don’t Feel Happy”

  1. Ellen,
    Glad to find you walking thru this. I miss Herk too….I will forever think of him, Izzy, and you as my bubble group. ❤️

  2. thank you i have recently lost my Sparky, my service dog – this loss is immense He was my all day every day every moment included Sparky it was unexpected and i am in total grief

    1. Hi Lynn,
      I’m so sorry for your loss. Pets bring such unconditional love to our lives – so much joy. And when it’s their time to leave us… well, you and I don’t know each other but we both sure know that heartache.

      Thank you so much for sharing, it means the world to me. I hope you find many micro-moments of joy in your days as you work your way through grief.

      May Sparky and Herk play, roam, and eat as many treats as they want! <3

  3. I don’t know you, Ellen, but I can relate to both your heartache and setting an intention for the day. May God bless you with wonderful memories and healing joy

    1. Marian,
      Such a kind comment. I want you to know how much I appreciate kindness from someone who doesn’t even know me. You touched my heart today when I really needed it, thank you so much.

  4. Ellen,
    I’m so sorry about Herk. I miss him also. I think that this must have been the time he was put here for you. I think you gave him a very happy life full of love. I will forever think of Herk, Izzy, and you as my Bubble Mates. ❤️

    1. Our walks with the pups really did make that time more pleasant. Thank you for your kind words.

  5. So sorry to hear about Herk. I hope the good memories bring you comfort in your grief. Hugs to you!

  6. Hugs to you as you grieve the loss of your special buddy. It takes time, but I pray that happy memories of Herk will be a comfort. ❤️

    1. Thank you, Kathy. We do have many good memories and they are indeed comforting. Thank you so much for your kind words.

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