So often we hit the new year and think that with a “POOF” we’ll make some big change and it’ll be life-changing and everlasting. Inevitably, the big change fizzles out and we end up back where we started. Will a change in mindset set you up for success in getting what you desire?
Earlier this year I attended an Abraham-Hicks* workshop which was based on the Law of Attraction. I’ll share some takeaways directly related to mindset, and then you can decide if you want to apply this principle in your life. It’s really all about paving the way for your dreams to become reality.
Energy Flows Where Attention Goes
The Law of Attraction states: like attracts like. It’s the belief that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts, a person brings positive or negative experiences into their life. You attract in your life what you think about most of the time. What you focus your attention on grows, and your energy and actions flow toward it. And when you’re inspired to take action, it’ll be effortless and everything will fall into place!
Pay attention to things in your life that you just want to be done with.
First, you need to know what you want. Abraham calls it contrast when you experience something that makes you realize what you don’t want. For example, if you don’t have enough money to pay your bills, you feel contrast as you realize that you lack sufficient money. Through experiencing things you don’t want (lack of money), you’ll get clarity of what you actually desire (prosperity).
The Secret to Getting What You Want
Once you know what you want, it’s time to attract it into your life. Abraham teaches that to attract things, you need to first feel satisfied and appreciative of what you already have. “If you’re thinking about how good life is and how good you feel, and about the wonderful things that you’re anticipating or living… then the more attention you give those things the more it will feel like ‘what you desire’ is hatching within you.” Build up excitement and visualize what you want in your life, so much that you feel satisfied with what you have.
Notice in their words they didn’t say the satisfaction has to be directly related to the specific thing you desire. Just aim for feeling satisfied about as many aspects in your life as possible. If you feel like there’s nothing to feel good about, start with appreciating the sun, beautiful scenery, tasty food, a stranger’s smile, a baby’s laugh… anything that helps promote positive thoughts.
Abraham often explains that there are two ends of a stick for every subject: what is wanted, and the absence of it. Sometimes we think we’re talking about what is wanted, but we end talking/thinking about the current situation – which is the absence of what is wanted. So in the above example:
- DO: focus on becoming more prosperous
- DO NOT: focus on how you don’t have enough money
If You Do Nothing Else, Do This!
STOP talking about the current situation that you don’t like. For example, if you want to improve a particular relationship, don’t keep thinking about all the things that are currently wrong with the relationship and the things that annoy you about that person. Focus on the good things about that relationship. Focus on the positive aspects of the other person in the relationship. Focus on all the good things you’re going to bring to your life to your relationship. Let go of “what is” and focus on the parts of relationship that bring pleasant thoughts. Thinking positively is your goal, there’s no room for negativity. (Read my post about removing negative from your life.)
Doubt, fear and worry will delay what you want from coming into your experience. The more consistently you feel positive and satisfied, the better you’re paving that path of least resistance. Look for as much fun, ease, and bliss as possible. It takes practice to get in the habit of positive thinking, especially when you’re unhappy with something. Here’s some things you can do to get that “feel good” feeling:
- Hang around people who are fun to be with
- Make a list of positive aspects
- Every night before you go to sleep, write (or at least think about) 3 good things that happened in your day – even small things count!
- Don’t look at “what is” – focus on how the good feeling of having it (whatever “it” is)
- Make a vision board (watch for an upcoming post with more about vision boards)
- Trust that the Law of Attraction will queue you up with the people you need
- Hold nobody responsible for you being happy (that’s YOUR job)
Be Aware of How You Feel
The way you feel is always the indication of whether you’re on a good path. If what you’re thinking doesn’t feel good or makes you feel unhappy, then stop – you’re likely doing more harm than good because you’re on the wrong side of the stick. If what you’re thinking is pleasant, then keep doing it! If the conversation is fun, then keep doing it! There should be joy in your journey on your way to getting what you desire. Relax and let ideas come to you.
The Joy is In the Journey
Remember, the joy is in the journey. Part of the joy should be feeling good about all the good, positive thoughts you have while you’re on your way to getting your dream. Don’t over think it. Don’t beat the drum of not having enough of something you want. Be aware of how you feel. Doubt, worry, and fear indicate you’re not practicing what will bring you to your goals. Don’t settle for anything but feeling enthusiasm, satisfaction, and clarity.
Years ago, Ester Hicks and her husband Jerry (who has since passed) began to meditate daily, and after about nine months Esther began her receptivity with what she calls Abraham. Now this may sound odd, but hang in here with me. Abraham is a collective consciousness, or infinite intelligence, or some people call it spirits. Whatever you call it, Abraham is from the non-physical side, and Esther has a unique gift of being able to communicate with this non-physical intelligence. It’s similar to how a medium communicates with non-physical. Esther now holds workshops across the county where she does the physical speaking of the words given to her by Abraham. It’s all based on the Law of Attraction, and although she doesn’t often use the word God, but it is very clear that this is Divinely rooted.
For additional learning, read my post about attracting more good experiences to your life with the Law of Attraction. The following books are excellent resources:
Also, here is a video in which Abraham discusses how to “manifest what your heart desires.”