Think about the people in your life: family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, etc.
- Do you know people who always seem to have some problem and tend to ride on the negative side?
- Do you know others who tend to be happy campers and generally positive about life?
- Which type of person do you want to hang out with?
- Most importantly, which type of person do YOU want to be?
The One Thing that Can Deflate Your Happiness is…
Your Negative Thoughts! We all encounter people in our daily life who influence how we feel. However, the biggest bad influence in your life is not other people; its your own negative thoughts.
Negative thoughts and emotions generally suck the joy right out of any moment. Worry, jealousy, resentment, and hate have never improved the happy-factor for a single human being. Even worse is when you keep focusing on the negative thoughts and let momentum build to the point where you make a mountain out of a molehill.
The First Step in Controlling Negative Emotion
Identify when you’re feeling badly. Negative thought triggers bad emotion. The moment you become aware that you’re not feeling good emotionally, take a minute to become consciously aware of your thoughts. Are you thinking negatively? Realize that your negative thought is not helping you and is not necessary. Knowing that you don’t feel good is your first step in the right direction. If you know you don’t feel good, you can take steps to feel better.
If you read my post about the Law of Attraction, you know that after only 17 seconds of thought, another similar thought joins your thoughts. A little negative thought will quickly roll into a big hairy deal if you keep talking about it or focusing on it.
It’s easier to stop negative thinking before it gets too strong.
What should you do when you’re aware that you’re having some negative emotion? Once you identify you’re feeling badly, stop those negative thoughts in their tracks! Try to be mindful of when your thoughts first start to go in a negative direction, and then quickly guide yourself back to a happier place. Instead of magnifying negative aspects in a situation, find the positive aspects of the situation. (Read my post The Power of Positive Thinking for specific ideas on how to replace negative thoughts with more positive thoughts.)
Only YOU have control of your thoughts.
If you can’t replace those negative thoughts with positive ones, then distract yourself by thinking about something completely different. Sit down, relax, have a cup of tea, take a nap….whatever you need to do to distract yourself. We each create our own reality – choose to make yours happy.
Of course this all takes practice. But as you start letting go of the negative thoughts and get momentum going on positive thoughts, your outlook is going to be better and you will start to attract other positive people. As you become naturally attracted to positively-focused people, you will naturally increase happiness in your life.